For a marriage to last over time, it is very important to have life goals similar to those of the couple. If this does not happen, it becomes the first cause of divorce. More than 43,000 women are enrolled in NextLove, the largest online dating network in Europe for divorced people and single mothers and fathers. The platform has asked its users the reasons why they broke their marriage. Some of them are physical abuse, infidelity or lack of privacy.
"The lack of common interests in a long-term life together can also be the cause of the second reason for this list," says Sigurd Vedal, CEO of NextLove and Victoria Milan, another dating website for married and divorced people looking for a affair "While infidelity is sometimes a very effective way to save some marriages, it can also be responsible for breaking others," continues Vedal. In fact, 29.2% of respondents cited infidelity as the second reason to leave their marriages. In the third step, 10.9% of the respondents affirmed that the constant fights and discussions were the main cause by which they broke their relationship.
The list is followed by a lack of privacy, which "can destroy a marriage and cause a couple to lead completely separate lives," says Vedal. Most women want excitement in their bedrooms and an active sex life and if they do not have this at home, they will look elsewhere. "In fact, we have seen that many of the users, both men and women, do it exactly for this reason: for taking time in a sexless relationship," explains the CEO of NextLove.
Another reason why women apply for a divorce is because of mental illness. Despite the efforts of the couple, the challenge of these types of illnesses can break the marriage. Although it is less frequent, 5.6% of the respondents affirmed that this was the main reason why they divorced.
The number 6 position on the list is the bad behavior on the part of the couple, either emotionally, financially or even physically. "Not helping with domestic chores, not worrying about their children or having bad character" are attitudes that "end up burning the couple", Vedal explains.
Boredom ranks seventh in this top. According to the dating platform, it is "a partner relationship killer" that has received 4.2% of the votes in this survey. Researchers from the University of Winnipeg say that the most common way for couples to describe their marriage is 'bland' or 'boring'.
Almost 3% of divorces due to abuse
The number 8 of the study is the physical abuse, a very serious issue suffered by 2.63% of women surveyed, which is 1,131 women in total.
To avoid this kind of abuses "in NextLove and in the rest of our online dating sites we make sure that there are no false profiles, and second that all members' conversations are absolutely healthy. In other words, our technology controls, through keywords, that users do not use bad words or that they can harm the person they are chatting with ", explains the CEO of the company.
Vedal says that, although it is "difficult" to control abusive behavior in offline life, when users leave our website, "all their platforms are designed so that no abuse occurs in them".
Other less important reasons that appear in the queue of the list are other domestic and economic problems. The CEO of NextLove believes that this top "represents quite well the reasons why many women decide to end their marriage and ask for a divorce" and celebrates that "after this process, they are usually quite open to give love a second chance" .
